Rules for Lovers.

I think I jacked this from a friend and tweaked it to my....well, you can definitely feel my hand in it.

• If someone wants you, nothing can keep them away. If they don’t, nothing can make them stay.
• Stop making excuses for a your lover  and their behavior.
• Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
• Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
• Slower is better.
• Never live your life for someone before you find what makes you truly happy.
• If a relationship ends because your lover was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
• Don't settle. If you feel like they are stringing you along, they probably are.
• Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
• The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
• Avoid ANYONE who has a bunch of children by a bunch of different people.  They didn't marry them, why are you any different? 
• Always have your own set of friends separate from your lovers.
• Maintain boundaries in how your lover treats you.
• If something bothers you, speak up.
• You cannot change someone’s behavior; change comes from within.
• Don't EVER make your lover feel they are more important than you are...even if they have more education or in a better job.
• Never let anyone define who you are.
• Never borrow someone elses lover.
• Oh Lord!? If they cheated WITH you, they'll cheat ON you.
• People will only treat you the way you ALLOW them to treat you.
• All men are NOT dogs.
• You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
• You need time to heal between relationships...........there is nothing cute about baggage.  
• Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
• You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
• Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. or Miss Right.
• Make them miss you sometimes...when a lover always know where you are, and you’re always readily available - they take it for granted.
• Don't fully commit to someone who doesn't give you everything that you need. 
• Keep a potential lover in your radar, but get to know others.
• They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.