Stages of Love

My current journey has me working on me now and future me. Future me is reading "Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married" by Gary Chapman. I don't have anyone in my life at the moment, but I will. Soon. I want to be ready for that.When I marry, I'm not going to be another statistic, so preparing myself with what not to do in relationships is a pretty good way to start. All relationships have their ups and downs but wouldn't you want to mitigate that as much as possible if you could?

I really like this book. I can see myself pulling it out later and re-reading it, reviewing it. It's helping me to learn a lot about myself. There's one chapter that's really intrigued me; 'Romantic Love Has Two Stages'. The first stage is the one we all know; that first, skipping through the fields, floating on air, he/she can do no wrong, feeling of love, being in love. Then there's stage two, I think of this stage as love reality or I love you but (I love you but I can't stand...) In the book Dr. Chapman discusses how many people never reach the second stage of love until later in their relationships, many times after their married. This discovery many times ends in divorce with couples because the don't realize that it's coming and they don't know each others love language. Yes, there is a love language and yes, we all have a love language.


In a nutshell, the 5 languages that makes someone feel loved are:
1. Words of Affirmation - words used to affirm another person
2. Acts of Service - doing something for another person
3. Receiving Gifts -getting a gift from someone
4.Quality Time - giving the other person your undivided attention
5. Physical Touch - duh

You can learn more about it here: http://www.5lovelanguages.com

It makes me think when I ponder past relationships.....

I tried to figure mine out without taking the test, but I couldn't. Although I definitely knew I wasn't Acts of Service. It's nice that you washed my car, but I can do that, I have my regular detailer that I take Sonja to once a month to get taken care of, thank you. My primary language is Quality Time. Secondary are Receiving Gifts and Personal Touch; what can I say, they tied. And they say to tell what a person is is what that person normally displays to others....damn, my man is gonna be SO LUCKY!