Know when to RUN.

My friend Lisa posted this YEARS ago. I'm stealing again, but I'm pulling out some highly important facts but as always, a good read.
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If you meet a woman and she tells you she loves you on the first date. RUN

If you meet a woman and you and her have sex on the first date, unless you have no intentions on calling her EVER again, don't' pretend like your going to call her the next day. This is why some women become stalkers. Just because she gave you some of the first date doesn't mean she's a hoe or that she gave it up to everyone on the first date. She might have been horny, fell for your tired line or just needed some 'maintenance". If you like her company and want to see her again, don't try to pull up the fact that she gave it up on the first date as a reason NOT to see her. She might NOT want to see u again. Consider this, if you were so hot to want to have sex with HER on the first date, she might be thinking YOU have issues also and NOT call YOU afterwards (especially if it wasn't that good to her)

Don't pretend to like what she likes because you want to have sex with her. If she's going to give you some, she will but lying will not make her give it to you any faster. For example, if you HATE foreign movies and she has a 100 DVD collection of them, DON'T DATE HER unless you are going to change your mind. You aren't going to change hers Likewise, if she HATES house music and you play it constantly, it is really not going to work out between you.

If you see a women you think is attractive and she tells you that she doesn't think you're her type MOVE ON! She knows what she likes and dislikes, whether she's a model and you're a 'nerdy' type, she's a bohemian style and your Brooks Brothers suit type, LET IT GO. Don't call her a bitch; don't try to change her mind. MOVE ON. There are more women out there who go for "YOUR TYPE", look for them. She's just not into you.

Don't' call a woman a bitch, hoe, slut because she cut off your game mid stride. She's just not into you. Period. Nothing you did. She's NOT interested. If she were, she would have taken your business card/number when you offered it. If she didn't, she doesn't. MOVE ON to someone who will

If you meet a woman and begin dating, if she fails to inform you that she has a child or children who live with other relatives, LEAVE HER WHERE YOU FOUND HER. If a woman will lie (and she is lying, make no mistake about that) about her child, she WILL lie about ANYTHING. Doesn't matter if the child is away for the summer, the week, spring break, etc, she failed to INFORM YOU. It shows her character.

If you are dating more than one woman, doesn't matter if you have having sex with one or all of them, TELL ALL OF THEM. While 1-2 may decide to not date you, 1-2 women may decide to continue. FULL DISCLOSURE MEANS FULL DISCLOSURE. Nothing will make a women turn off your more than when her friends tell her that they saw you with someone else in public. She's been embarrassed and humiliated and believe me, YOU are going to bear the brunt of it if you have lead her to believe by your actions or inactions the she was the ONLY person you were dealing with.  Full disclosure doesn't mean you have to compare breast sizes and oral skill assessments, but let her know simply by saying, "I need to let you know upfront that I am dating other people. If this is a PROBLEM or you are uncomfortable with that fact, let me know right now and we can end this date. No harm, no foul."  If she says no, then later begins to indicate by her actions that she doesn't like this situation, STOP DATING HER.

If a woman indicates that she had went through a previous boyfriend's cell phone, broke into his email, checked his home/work/cell voicemail or followed a previous boyfriend because she suspected he was "cheating" on her, LEAVE HER WHERE YOU FOUND HER. SHE WILL DO IT TO YOU. She had mental health issues that need to be addressed. Any one who will go thru such 'length' is not mentally stable, no matter how good she is in bed.

If a woman tells you she has keyed up an ex's car, broken his home windows, had public arguments with ex's, had fist fights with ex's and other women, has come to an ex's job and had public altercations, had public altercations at family gathering with ex's. LEAVE HER WHERE YOU FOUND HER, SHE WILL DO IT TO YOU. There is a difference between having a private argument in a public place and NO ONE knew it was an argument and 2 people yelling, cursing and screaming at each other in a public place and they were kicked out of an establishment or were threatened with law enforcement being summoned.

If a woman has a history of cheating on her boyfriends, most of her ex boyfriends are married (and were married when they were dating) STRONGLY CONSIDER if you want to have a committed relationship with her UNLESS she indicates that she has undergone counseling to see why she picked unavailable men in her past. A woman, when they realize when they have a 'dating' pattern (negative) will seek counseling and work on issues related to intimacy/commitment. Once she realizes why, she'll better understand her dating past and will NOT return to it.

Stay away from women who have recently been in an abusive relationship (mental, physical, emotionally) regardless how much she's "healed" she's just starting to live life without the abusive partner, she needs to get herself healthy emotionally before she can consider dating, let alone sex. Women who have been in abusive relationships need to work on skills that a nice, normal guy is not equipped to handle. While she might be the nicest person in the world, you are not mentally, physically, emotionally prepared to deal with her and her past and you do not possess the psychological training to help her get back to stage 1.

Having sex with a long term friend WILL change the nature of the relationship. Don't kid yourself. If she was decent in bed, you're going to want to hit it again. If she starts dating someone, you're going to get upset when she won't respond to you calls for sex (because if he's a keeper, she's not giving you anymore)

If you meet a woman and after sex she begins planning 'mini-vacations' for the both of you, STOP. While trips are nice, instant relationships are not. If a woman begins making travel plans for the rest of the year as a 'couple' RUN. She obviously has commitment issues and having sex with her only made it worse.

If you begin dating someone near her birthday and you are a romantic guy, there's nothing wrong with a TASTEFUL and APPROPRIATE birthday celebration. (dinner or small token gift) otherwise, dinner and a movie is fine. If she has plans made before you both met, don't get upset. Make arrangements to spend time together before or after her birthday.

If you begin dating someone and it's near YOUR birthday, same rule as above applies. If you are NOT going to spend your birthday with her because of prior commitments (going to parents house, etc) let her know in advance and plan to hang out with her, either the day before or the day after.

DON'T meet her parents unless you are serious. When I mean serious, I mean COMMITMENT serious. NO sense in pretending a future where there is none. Regardless of whether she's 'family' oriented. She can spend time with her family and time with you, you don't have to be around her family constantly and unless you like being on display, limit your contact with her family if she is not the only women you are dating.

If you are around her family, notice the dynamics: Are the family dynamics 'fractured'? Do you see tons of single women and children? Are there NO men in your age group who are 'married' or committed to any of the women present? Are there tons of children running around and no men? Are the women present complaining about how "so and so's" no good man/husband/ boyfriend just got out of jail? Are they complaining about men in general? The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.